Sports for Teenagers – Helpful Things You May Not Be Aware Of

The teenage years are turbulent times. They are not children anymore but they’re not adults yet. Caught in a time when they are trying to make sense of the rapid bodily changes that they are experiencing, teenagers are often vulnerable to outside influences yet at the same time resistant to parental advice. As boys try to grapple with changes in their physiques, they also strive to find their niche in the society to belong to. They strive to form lasting friendships as they seek to carve their individual identities under the critical eyes of parents, peers and teachers. Teenage girls, meanwhile, have to come to terms with the fact that their breasts are getting larger and that they have monthly periods. These body changes have made them more conscious of the way they move and act, especially around the opposite sex.

Getting teenagers involved in youth sports is one way of helping them cope with the turbulent changes that they are experiencing at this stage of development. By participating in youth sports such as basketball, swimming, softball, soccer, tennis, volleyball and even golf, teenagers are able to learn valuable lessons that positively affect the various aspects of their lives. One of the more important benefits of encouraging teenagers to participate in sports is that it equips him with patience and persistence– skills that they will find useful when they grow up. To perfect his or her skill in a sport requires constant hours of practice. This develops patience. When a teenager loses a game, he or she learns to practice some more, to persist in winning the game. Being involved in a team also fosters teamwork. The qualities of patience, persistence and teamwork are important values to develop when they grow up as adults. They will encounter many setbacks and knowing how to deal with these will inevitably spell the difference between future success and failure.

As the levels of obesity among the younger population are on the rise these days, letting teenagers participate in youth sports will definitely help keep their weight under control. It will teach them the importance of exercise and a healthy diet early in life. Research has shown that those who practice good lifestyle habits early in life have better chances of practicing healthy living as adults. Moreover, those who are involved in active sports while they’re young grow up healthier, stronger and more balanced physically and emotionally. With improved feelings about one’s body come high levels of self-confidence that most teenagers lack. It also prevents them from succumbing to depression due to negative feelings about themselves. When teenagers feel sure and confident about themselves, they are also better equipped to deal with peer pressure that might lead them to smoking, drinking and sex. Practice hours keep them busy and occupied. Any stress they have about any situation is practically burned at play. They don’t look for unhealthy ways of coping because the sport itself is demanding enough to keep them occupied even as the element of fun and the spirit of friendly competition keeps them engaged. When teenagers get into youth sports, the ultimate result is in a well-rounded, more confident and mature personality.

Great Sex Tips for Couples

Looking for some ideas to spice up your sex life? Here are five super sex tips for things to try with your partner that will be sure to get the passion flowing.

  1. Visit a swingers club. Bet you didn’t think we’d throw this one in first. The fact is, swingers clubs are not intimidating places at all and you certainly don’t need to do anything if you don’t want to. There also won’t be rampant sex in your face everywhere either; most have a bar or relaxation area, with the ‘action’ taking place out of sight. You’ll meet some friendly people and, at the very least, it will give yo some new things to talk about in the bedroom at home!
  2. Try outdoor sex. A secluded beach or forest can be a great place for fun sex. Just take a blanket or two and find a place where you won’t be disturbed, although the thought of being ‘discovered’ can give an added thrill to the adventure.
  3. Make your next holiday ‘clothing optional’. Resorts with nude beaches are growing in popularity, and for good reason. They can really add some sensual flavour to your holiday in the sun. Most are couples-only (or at least adults-only) so you don’t need to worry about gawking teenagers or strange men making you feel uncomfortable. Many people, once they have tried nude bathing, never go back to wearing swimsuits!
  4. Watch an erotic movie together. I don’t mean porn, but the ‘soft’ porn erotica you can rent from the local movie library. There are some fantastically sexy movies which unfortunately have become rather overlooked since the flood of hard core pornography on the internet.
  5. Talk through your fantasies when you make love. While you’re already aroused during sex is a great time to cast your inhibitions aside completely and tell your lover your deepest sexual fantasies. Every healthy adult with an active sex life has fantasies, so it’s nothing to be ashamed about. Even if you’re a bit shy, you might be surprised how positively your lover responds and, who knows, it could be the start of some new sexual adventures for you both to explore together.

Really exploring the boundaries of your sexual relationship with your lover can do a great deal to strengthen the loving bond between you. Push beyond your comfort zone a little and you never know, it might open up a whole new world of excitement

Test Love Compatibility – Physical and Emotional Sexuality Method

One of the most powerful and useful tools to test love compatibility was developed as part of Physical and Emotional Suggestibility and Sexuality Theory, first introduced by John G. Kappas, Ph.D. in 1975. It was based on 30 years of clinical investigation and extensive research. Dr. Kappas became famous for his results predicting behavior and resolving relationship problems using this theory.

In the conventional view of behavior, popularized by John Gray in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, men behave one way, women another. This view underlies the approach most therapists use to counsel couples.

In his practice as a marriage and family therapist, Dr. Kappas discovered that two other patterns of behavior existed that offered a better context for couples therapy. He identified the patterns as Physical Sexuality and Emotional Sexuality. Both men and women exhibit both patterns. It seems that some men and women are from Mars, some from Venus.

The behavior traits exhibited in Physical Sexuality and Emotional Sexuality are quite different. For example, take a look at the patterns with respect to just a few traits.

A Physical Sexual person tends to be openly and abundantly affectionate. He is outgoing, comfortable in groups, and enjoys calling attention to his physical body. When rejected, he tries harder. He views sex as an integral expression of loving and being loved. He tends to be available for sex anytime and enjoys prolonging sexual expression to maximize the feelings of love and acceptance.

In sharp contrast, an Emotional Sexual person tends to be uncomfortable with open affection, prefers intimate interactions with one or two people, and is uncomfortable calling attention to his body. When rejected, he withdraws. He views sex as a means of release quite separate from love. He tends to desire sex on a cycle, such as every three days. On a cycle day, he experiences complete release in one sexual event. On off days, he may not find sexual expression or physical touch pleasant.

The behavior traits of Physical and Emotional Sexuality are so distinctly different, it is not hard to understand why people of opposite Sexuality have difficulty interacting, much as a dog and a cat have trouble interacting.

People tend to exhibit behavior traits from both Physical and Emotional Sexuality patterns, though one pattern or the other dominates. To measure both Sexuality and the percent dominance, Dr. Kappas created the Physical and Emotional Sexuality Questionnaires and developed a statistical scoring system. On these tests, a person may score from 55-95% Physical Sexuality, or 55-95% Emotional Sexuality.

A person of 95% dominance in either Sexuality will exhibit that behavior exclusively. A person of 55% dominance in either Sexuality will exhibit almost as many traits of the opposite Sexuality as his own. Knowing a person’s Sexuality score, consequently, is quite useful in predicting his behavior.

In predicting relationship behavior, the Physical and Emotional Sexuality score is even more enlightening. In an ironic twist of nature, for long term intimate relationships, a person chooses a person of opposite Sexuality with the same degree of dominance.

A 95% Physical Sexual will partner with a 95% Emotional Sexual. This couple, like the dog and cat, will experience difficulty interacting as their behavior traits are so different. You might suspect that they are incompatible as a couple. Ironically, their sexual chemistry is explosive. Their strong physical attraction may keep them together but their conflicts and misunderstandings will be many.

Low scorers on the Physical and Emotional Sexuality scale also have difficulty. They will experience few problems interacting outside the bedroom as their behavior traits are similar. Sexual chemistry, however, is weak to nonexistent. Their ability to get along may keep them together but sexual disappointment may also lead to conflict and misunderstandings. Moderate scorers relate best on every level.

As a rule of thumb in Physical and Emotional Sexuality, when people of opposite Sexuality relate, the more extreme the opposite, the more intense the sexual attraction and the greater the problems in all other aspects of the relationship. It seems Mother Nature had her own ideas about relationship compatibility.

Sexuality patterns cannot be changed. Knowledge of Physical and Emotional Sexuality is the best means to improve understanding of yourself, your partner, and the problems you have. It is the most powerful and most useful tool to help couples quickly identify relationship issues and resolve them. It can be used effectively in counseling or as a self help measure.

Despite the broad benefits of Physical and Emotional Sexuality, it is not widely practiced. Since its introduction, numerous new theories and techniques, such a Neurolinguistic Programming and Rational Emotive Therapy, have emerged. These, together with the flood of self help methodologies, compete for a place in professional training and practice. No one methodology is standard in relationship counseling today. For relationship questions, however, no other method gets better results when it is time to test love compatibility.